5 Definite Ways to Fulfill Your Resolutions in 2023

Introduction:

Just before the beginning or at the beginning of the new year, the tendency making new resolutions of people increases very much. Especially in the first few pages of the first month, new resolutions and their implementation in real life are written in the new diary. But after a few days, the diary remains in one place and the owner is in another place and there is no connection between the two for the whole year. How many of you would agree with me in this regard?

 

How many of you have made a resolution to improve your health at the beginning of the year, a resolution to kick out bad habits? How many have resolved to make themselves more productive? I think almost everyone has made some sort of resolution in the past! 

Now tell me how many of you have made your resolutions perfectly or have been able to give them reality?

Why do we fail to fulfill new year's resolutions?

It is very essential to understand why at the beginning of the new year we start with a lot of enthusiasm by taking new resolutions, but after a few days we go back to the old track. Written commitments are remained in diaries, resolutions became dusty and faded from memory. We all know that we need changes in our lives and we want to change in our lives but how many of us know why we need to change and what will be. We want to be successful but we don't know what the definition of success is to us.

At the beginning of a new year we emphasize making new resolutions, so I explain with the word 'resolution'. The synonyms of resolution are determination, analysis and solutions (although there are many other synonyms, I have taken these three for this context).

Out of these we only accept the first word, the rest i.e. 'Analysis' and 'Solution' we leave out of context, and that bury our resolutions in the first month of the new year. It is fact that we take decisions but we do not analyze why we are taking these decisions!  How beneficial it can be for us to fulfill this resolution!  What challenges can come before us to fulfill this determination! If the determination is fulfilled, what personal evolution will develop within us!  etc. If you don't have a clear picture of why you are doing something and what result will be at the end, your internal motivation can never be triggered. Naturally, after a while, you'll give up that work, whether it's your personal development or self-care.

Here I would intend to refer more to the second synonym of resolution i.e. 'solution', because we need not only to make a resolution but to find a way to resolve it, we have to have the resilience to deal with the obstacles that may arise on the way fulfillment of that resolution. If you just set the goal without strategy to reach there, is it possible to achieve it?

If we try to understand with the help of an example the matter becomes much simpler. Let's say that your new year's resolution for good health is to lose weight and you start exercising as usual. After a few days you realize that 'time' has become a big challenge for you. Will you be able to fulfill your determination!  Never, you will never feel congruence. The timing problem was still there when you made the resolution on the first day of the new year but you didn't analyze it and find a solution.

How we can make 2023 more productive:

Making decision is not a problem. You may have taken thousands of such resolutions over the years but the real challenge is to implement them, to feel the inner motivation for them, so that you don't give up in the midway, you don't go back to the old track. 

You will never know how and when 2023 will pass if you continue in the same way as you have been going on and on in the past years, making unplanned resolutions and failing.  365 days from life will be minus again, at the end of the year you will make new year's resolution again. In the end, results will be same, nothing will be changed in life. 

Taking specific action and planning to transform the next 365 days into the best year of your life so far without going in the traditional way is sure to bring massive results. If you want to make the right plans to make the year productive before entering the new year, it is not only about making New Year's resolutions, but also about analyzing them to make them successful and taking immediate action to resolve them. 

Whether you want to break old bad habits and develop good habits, you want to sweeten relationship, to reach another level of success, meet new financial goals, take care of your health, or anything else, you have to make a commitment, but to meet the objectives and to achieve those objectives, they must be analyzed at first. 

You must have a complete explanation in your mind of why you are making the new resolution, what positive impact the resolution will have on your life, how to apply it in your daily routine, what new steps you may need to take, what challenges may be arised and how to overcome them. How can you prepare yourself for!

There are various aspects of life that you want to change and improve in the next 365 days. Choose the two to three most important aspects and then analyze them one by one. The better you analyze, the clearer the solutions will be to you. 

Everyone knows consciously that in order to stay healthy, they need to take healthy food and do exercise, yet most people don't do so, why? Because none of them has a clear idea of ​​what positive changes in life can be brought about by eating healthy food, exercising for 365 days. As a result, they do not want to get out of their laziness, go back to that comfort zone, eat junk food due to cravings.

How to fulfill your Resolution:

These all are the definite steps I have described below to make sure your Resolutions come true.

1) Clear Understanding of Goals:

Setting goals is not enough, but you can never focus on them if you don't have strong reasons and clear picture about them in your subconscious mind.  Even if you start with the first initiative, it will disappear after a few days. Follow the "MASTERY" rule to set your goals so that your goals stick in your mind and you feel congruent. 

Here 'M' for Meaningful, 'A' for Achievable, 'S' for Specific and Simple, 'T' for Time-bound, 'E' for Ecology check, 'R' for Responsibility, 'Y' for Yearning. Read the article 'MASTERY' The Golden Way to Set Goals and achieve them for details.

Setting goals in this specific way will ensure that you feel connectivity, never let go.  No matter how well you set a goal, no matter how well you plan, it's very difficult to achieve if you don't have the right mindset. To develop a positive mindset you need to set goals with the help of 'MASTERY' rules.

2) Integrate your Resolutions into your daily routine in a well planned manner:

Time is a big challenge for all of us in this busy age so if you don't use the 24 hours of the day in a well-planned way then your determination will fade into the pages of old memory. Plan and create a routine that allows you to set aside time each day to make your New Year's resolutions a reality. 

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3) Make those in your habit:

The first month especially the first few days are very difficult to develop any new habit.  Once if it becomes a habit it will be very easy for you. You see, when you learn to drive a car first, it seems so complicated, managing so many pedals at once, along with steering, horn, keeping track of front-back, left-right, Oops, it seems impossible. When this driving becomes a habit, so many things will be handled automatically without any conscious effort.

Making anything new in a habit first requires conscious control, conscious effort, after some time it becomes a pattern in our subconscious mind then there is no problem. In the same way, the actions you need to take to fulfill your resolutions, first take conscious control over them to turn them into your habits, then automatically you will continue on that path and succeed.

4) Take Massive action:

"Slow is painful, fast is easy" keep it in mind, take massive action and only then you will get massive results, you can notice the change. Whenever progress is slow, success will not be at that level and you will also become demotivated. 

The more you procrastinate at work, the more you lose interest. Of course, taking massive action can seem daunting if you misunderstand what it means. 

Massive action doesn't mean taking a big step in right away, but maintaining a steady and upward effort to do things consistently until you reach your goal and fulfill your determination. Don't pretend to be busy, but increase your self-efficacy so that you can become committed to your dreams.

5) Give reward to yourself:

This is also a very important step. Success is a journey, a perticular process, if you can enjoy each step of this journey, obstacles will disappear. Any reward gives us satisfaction, make us joyful, boosts self-confidence, helps us to focus more on the goal.  Monotonous journey makes us demotivated. 

Suppose you wish to set a financial goal, you want to increase your income by 10% in the first six months of the year, and at the same time announce a reward for yourself if you can achieve it in a certain time, you will go for a trip for a few days or will have a party with your family,  whatever may be pleasing, but reward yourself and it will multiply your motivation.

Conclusion: 

If you want to fulfill your new year resolution the best way to start by thinking of why you want to achieve them, why they are mostly important to you and what you will get from of it. If you maintain the steps that I have mentioned in this article, you will definitely get success at the end of the year.

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How self care is important for mental health

Introduction:

Before going to the main topic, let me tell you a small but very important story. An experienced apple grower once being greedy  started spraying some chemicals on apples before ripening to make the apples look fresh and beautiful. After several sprays, the apples became shiny, and the farmer's heart became full of joy, becouse he can now market them at a much higher price than before. 

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Finally he picked them up for ripening and make them ready for marketing. The wholesaler came and saw the apples, while bargaining, the wholesalers checked the quality of the apples and found them of low quality. He did not buy at a higher price, instead the farmer was compelled to sell the apples at a much lower price. The farmer began to huff and puff, thinking with his head in despair that if he had taken care of the roots of the tree without sprinkling chemicals on the fruit, he would not have been in such great danger, he would not have had to suffer from such a great financial loss. 

This story teaches us a great lesson. We do the same with our lives, for self-care we use marketed creams on our face or body, wear expensive watches and clothes, insist on hair cutting and hair dressing, all these are like spray to make apples shiny but low in quality.

What self care really means:

Self care is not about polishing yourself from the outside, self care is about taking care of yourself from the inside, taking care of yourself physically and mentally. Self-care, however, is considered an an integral part of luxury. In fact, not only that, self care is actually a multi-dimensional, multi-faceted process that helps to maintain mental, physical and emotional well-being, so that you can remain stable under pressure, overcoming life's obstacles and challenges. It can be luxury if you change your looks externally, but self care means taking care of yourself so that you can maintain your physical health, mental health and Mental Wellness. Without maintaining good health in both physical and mental you will not be able to perform better in your work, to maintain any good relationship. That's why I said 'If you don't take care of yourself, you will be burden to someone else.' 

Of course, self-care includes taking care of your clothes, your appearance, and it is also useful primarily to boost your self-esteem and self-confidence. Not only this, but this kind of self-care generates a positive feeling in itself, also another very important thing is that people are initially attracted to your out looks and judge you, then they may want to know your quality, whether you are even the Person of Deserving or not!

Is self care is important:

If you don't care of your health, of your Mental Wellness, after certain age, you will be the burden to someone else or to you. To keep up with the times, you will have to be very careful, becouse day by day work pressure, economic pressure, sense of responsibilities are increasing along with new diseases are emerging. To cope with all these, to sustain yourself, to make a meaningful life, to fill it with happiness and prosperity, you need to take care of yourself, to maintain good physical and mental health.

Outlook has value up to a level, but then you have to be verified by someone. There is a lot of gold glitters but they rarely come close to the price of pure gold. Its value is not determined by its luster, the value of gold is determined by checking its purity, if alloy is mixed, the value is reduced. In the same way, if you never become pure gold by not taking care of yourself, when you get hit somewhere, your body will either not support you, or you will break down mentally.

Why self care is important for mental health?

Our body and mind together form a system by which we are guided, affecting one of these two naturally affects the other.  Immunity is built up in our body to fight against most diseases so it is important to take care of yourself physically. If the body is weak or sick mind can never set to do anything though there is skill. 

Likewise, 'the better you take care of your mind the more motivated you will be' to do something.  Mental health will help you to overcome any obstacles. Self-care can easily help to overcome mental obstacles like grief, suffering, pain, stress, depression.  Not only this, it also greatly reduces the risk of getting sick. 

No matter what success you've achieved, no matter what you've had recently, it's almost impossible to enjoy it without mental health, and there's no other way than self-care that can help you maintain long-term mental health.

How self-care reduces Mental challenges:

Basically we face mental challenges because of our personal internal representation of any event, what actually we are giving meaning to any situation in our life, how any event from the external world is getting register in our mind!

For an example, you are calling your lover for several time and she/he is not picking up your phone. You may perceive that she or he is ignoring you, is not careful to you. This kind of perception disturb you, give you mental pain. In fact it may not be true, he/she may have been taking rest or doing important something else by muting the Phone. 

The meaning your mind will give to an event depends entirely on your belief system, your values, your past experiences, your meta program and your mental and physical state at that particular moment or time. If you really take care of yourself the way you see the outside world will change, your belief will be much stronger, your values will change, you will be able to erase your past painful memories easily. Above all in terms of any situation you can remain steadfast and maintain resourcefull state. 

How to take Self-care:

Almost all of us are consciously aware of how to practice self-care best. But it is not only knowing, but to implement them in our life, we have to make them into our daily habits and for this some special methods can be adopted which I have mentioned here.

Keep doing exercises:

Self care should be taken by keeping at least twenty minutes of exercise in the daily routine and doing it regularly every day. Physical exercise and activities include morning walks, sports. Doing these on a regular basis will increase immunity, feel lighter and more relaxed, can sleep well, mind will be better.

Consuming a healthy, balanced diet is very important:

Drinking enough water and taking balanced diet according to body growth and weight is an important part of taking care. Tempting, spicy, junk food should be avoided, so that the problem of gas heartburn does not bring down your energy.

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Maintain Mental Wellness:

Another very important thing to take care of is to pay attention to mental health, maintaining Mental Wellness. Although it is a continuous process, following this method you will not be consumed by negative thoughts, you can keep your mind in a resourceful state at all times, and your self-efficacy will increase.

       Methods of maintaining Mental Wellness:

Meditate daily: 

Meditation calms the mind, improves observation skills, increases the tendency to react thoughtfully instead of reacting quickly, patience increases. This kind of personal evolution process has life-changing positive impact.

Being aware of one's own conversation: 

What one speaks to oneself and to others determines one's level of self-awareness, self-care. Just as your behaviours are the product of your innate thoughts, so your habits are the product of your internal and external dialogue. Use positive and influential words to you and other also.

Focus more on positive events:

It is natural that some events are negative and some events are positive. We cannot always avoid negative events, but when we focus more on positive events, the more good events will unfold before our eyes. 

It is very pleasant for you to get the news of how many beautiful innocent babies were born instead of how many people died in the hospital, it will increase your Mental Wellness. So why go to get the news of how many people have died?

Try to find positive aspects in any event:

Just as the bad aspects of something negatively affect our mind, the good aspects help us stay in a resourceful state, helping us to maintain a good mood. There must be both good and bad sides in every event. If you can find the positives, you will find the real logistics of maintaining Mental Wellness.

Conclusion:

Self-care and mental well-being and health are inextricably linked, complementing each other. Similarly what we mean by self-care in common parlance i.e. skin care, hair care, clothing care, these are required. Wearing clean clothes, keeping yourself clean will certainly have a beneficial effect on the body and mind. So in terms of self-care, they should also be given importance, not to show, but to feel good.

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How to make Yourself 'The Person of Deserving'

'A deserving person does not need to claim, his qualities claim for him'.

Indeed deserving persons demands more than others, but they do not make demands on others, their demands are very intrinsic, they make demands on themselves and make themselves worthy to fulfill all these demands. Incompetent people wait to get something without paying it's proper value. They make unreasonable demands on society, people or the government, they do not hesitate to take undew advantages from others.

 TABLE OF CONTENT

• Well Deserving Meaning.
• How Deserving You are.
• How to be deserving.

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Well Deserving Meaning:

If anyone is deserving something that means he or she has qualities, he or she is the right person to receive it. Whenever you demand anything from others, it is not necessary that you will have get it, but when you make yourself the person of well deserving then the things will come to you as a reward. We have many examples in this world who achieved a lot of money, love, wealth and many other valuable things without making themselves as the person of deserving but they have no fulfillment in their lives, or they lost everything after a few days. 

How Deserving You are:

There is no instrument and standard in this world to judge how deserving you are. Those people are considered as deserving people in the field of education whose educational qualification is of high quality, the most deserving person in business is the one who understands business, who has economic knowledge, who is skillful in calculations. 'The person of deserving' in such various fields is the one who is well versed in that subject. 

You can judge yourself how deserving you are by the result what you are getting at present, present is the result of your past, how deserving you made yourself in past. if you are not getting the result or not receiving anything which your visualising or thinking, it is indicating that you need to improve yourself as 'the person of deserving', there is still some qualities missing in yourself. 

It is not exactly true that what you get in life is the direct result of how deserving you are and it is also not like that whenever you make yourself 'The Person of Deserving' immediately you will get results. Getting result, getting extraordinary success is a process, if you don't stop, don't give up they will come to you, you just have to believe in yourself, you need to have positive mindset.

If you want good relationship, want the life of financial freedom, want perfect love and connection, name and fame, if you want to be extremely successful, then you will have to become the person of deserving, otherwise you will not get results upto the level by demanding or claiming. 

If you raise your standard, increase your qualities, develop yourself up to the lavel what you are thinking to deserve, you will get it today or tomorrow. 

I personally know many people who have reached the peak of success overnight and have earned a lot of fame, especially in today's age of social media, where it has become possible faster, but almost none of them has been able to sustain that success. It's only because they didn't raise themselves to that level, didn't make themselves the person of deserving, that's why they fell so fast. 

I remember a recent singer, I'm not mentioning the name, suddenly her song went viral on social media, she became a great singer, became famous within a few days, suddenly she goes from beggar to celebrity, her hustle and bustle and lifestyle changes unimaginably. As soon as the year passed, she returned to her place. Now we are seeing that the social media through which she rose to the top is making her crazy and demeaning not because of her tone of voice - suddenly changed or none has taken away her voice. The fact is that she didn't deserve what she got, or make herself deserving for it.

How to be deserving:

The first step to make yourself deserving is to stop making demands of others. You may claim to achieve something, but until you have made yourself deserving of it, you cannot enjoy it with joy, or the success will not last. Each of us has many demands, it is better to have those demands and it is important to take responsibility for fulfilling those demands, otherwise the habit of demanding from others will lead your life to a lower level. 

Making yourself 'the person of deserving' is a definite process, not an overnight change mantra or a magic spell with God's blessings. This process is time consuming, 'yes' sometimes it may take time for months and sometimes it may take years. 

You want to be a famous singer, want to gain fame! For that you have to practice daily, improve your voice, practice with musicians, do Sadhana and many other methods (I'm not a singer so I don't know the whole process) to become a great singer. When you follow these methods, it means that you are developing yourself as a qualified singer, you are becoming the person of deserving in this field. Being persistent in goals with passion and focusing on personal development can only lead you to the person of deserving.

If you want to be the person of deserving in any field, you need to understand the actual weakness you have through self-actualization and then you can choose the best ways to improve yourself on those areas.

You can use some affirmations like "I am worthy enough" to program your subconscious mind, this affirmation will not make you 'The Person of Deserving', but it will motivate you to make yourself worthy. This motivation will help you to take action, giving you mental strength to become a deserving person. 

Conclusion:

Behind every discovery lies years of tireless work and concentration of scientists. What's more, a person devotes many years of his life to become a deserving person, competent scientist who can discover something new. 

An archer who wins gold at the Olympic Games may be once or it takes a few hours or a few minutes to cover up the competition, but to make himself/herself the person of deserving for the world's greatest platform of games, it takes years of unremitting hard work and practice. 

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Loneliness is Your Worst Enemy| 3 Steps to Overcome it

A few days ago I saw a headline in the newspaper, "World Population is Projected to Reach 8 Billion on November 2022" -how strange, still people feel loneliness! The question should arise in mind, 'I am alone in the crowd of so many people'?

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Introduction:

Of course, this is not surprising because loneliness is entirely a matter of one's own mind, one's own feelings. You can feel yourself alone in a crowd of millions of people, and even with all the entertainments in front of you loneliness doesn't want to be ended. However, being alone and feeling loneliness are completely different things. Loneliness is a complete state of mind, an empty space inside the mind that cannot be filled even if surrounded by people from the entire universe. It is an unpleasant emotional reaction and psychological process. Loneliness can be felt when there will be no balance of addition and subtraction in life. It is normal to feel loneliness when a person stays alone, feels unloved and inferiority. 

Loners never want to be alone, they want to talk to others, they want to connect with others, but their mental state is at a point where they can't get along with others, they search for emotional bonds. In fact, he who has endured the feeling of loneliness can understand its burning, its pain exactly. 

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How Do You Believe in Yourself

What is the meaning of Believe: 

Believe is the feelings of absolute certainty to something. 'Believe' is purely internal feelings to think that something is true, correct or real. Although this feeling is considered as fragile as broken glass. 

What does 'Believe in Yourself' means:

When it comes to 'believe in yourself' it is the shield of your life, the source of your mental strength and the stepping stone to success. 

What you are today, what your success is, in what situation your life is today etc. are the direct results of your faith. Believe in yourself means belief in your own capabilities, your own capacity, your own potential and accepting yourself wholeheartedly. Lack of self-belief breeds self-doubt and as a result you are bound to suffer from inferiority complex. 

Why Believe in Yourself is important:

Various studies say that people trust others, hypocrisy, and external things more than they believe themselves. That's why people are cheated again and again. Believe requires acceptance and several references more than proofness.

Self-belief does not only increase Self-confidence in certain areas, but it creates also high self-image which has the effect of increasing self-assuredness and self-reliance to cope in all problems. In fact, the role of 'believe' is very important in shaping our mindset( Some other factors like values, past experience, meta program, physiological state etc are also involved). We know very well how much our mind-set affects on our results, so directly or indirectly our results must depend on self-belief. It will be more clear if we give some examples in this regard. People wear expensive dresses of various designs, use jewelry, apply creams on the face and use makeup tools to flaunt their beauty, but how many of them believe that she/he looks beautiful! If someone says "you  are not looking good" when you go out dressed in a beautiful design, don't you start questioning yourself? Again suppose you believe that you can do a task and undertake to do it.  When you come to focus on the work, someone, you know, your parents or someone significant to you asks you whether you can actually do the work at all! Then and there your own believe is shaken, you doubts on whether you can do the work at all or not! If you don't believe in yourself, a little thing, some words of others' creates self-doubt, then how far can you go with a fragile belief in yourself? This fragile of faith will multiply your adversities many times over. 

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What are the Synonyms of Believe: 

There are many synonyms of the word believe, among them faith, trust, confidence, conviction, reliance are notable. The words credence, motion, troth, tenet, paricularism are all synonyms of believe, the rest depends on the context in which they are used.  And all these synonyms make the word faith very important in our life. For example, if you trust someone or someone reassure you, you will easily develop believe in him, in this case your mind may not ask you any questions, and even if you are dependent on someone, you may develop faith in him. I discuss these because all of these factors influence how strong or shaky your self-belief is.

How believe in yourself:

I will mention here some very simple and practical methods through which you can strengthen your believe in yourself. 

Break old false believe:

Believe in yourself or to others, if you don't break your old beliefs new believe will not be developed. A number of false beliefs about oneself are formed as a result of misconceptions, negative experiences, or negative comments from others. Caught in the trap of such beliefs, many people lose their happiness in life, despite hard work high level of success does not come, irrational fear takes root in the mind. 

Overcoming false but strong beliefs about oneself need to shake them and that is possible only by questioning these beliefs. Ask yourself, is what you believe eternally true?  From what reference did you have this belief?  Are those references 100% accurate?  Why do you believe what you believe?  Is this believe harming you or doing good to you? Your believe system is bound to waver in the face of such question marks. 

If you pay attention, you will see that the part of the house which is not used, is not cleaned, not much human movement, spiders, cockroaches, ants, insects make their nests there. Whenever you use it, clean it, everything gets repelled, runs away. In the same way, wrong beliefs have been living peacefully in your mind for so long and making your life dirty.  If stirred by the question, they will be forced to cower and flee. Once the space is freed, you can easily create new beliefs that are positive for you, conducive to your success and can make you happy and prosperous.

Self-realization:

Realize yourself, what do you want?  What is your purpose?  Where are your weaknesses or where are your strengths?  What do you love to do?  What work do you feel motivated by yourself?  A clear understanding of these is crucial to building believe in yourself. 

In fact people do not realize themselves or much less try to.  Most people listen to their parents, elders, teachers and authority figures from a young age and instill false beliefs in their brains that limit their self-beliefs. And in fact, our brain searches for ways to prove true whatever we believe.

When important authority figures make a comment about you, they may be making the comment out of anger or bias towards a particular situation, but the far-reaching effect is deep in your subconscious mind. For example, at a very young age someone is labeled by his parents or teacher as naughty, or as saying that no good will be done by the child, later this statement is transformed into his/her own belief. You can't shut someone's mouth or shut your ears all the time, but you can remove these false negative beliefs and develop positive self-beliefs through self-realization. Also, whenever you hear such a negative statement about you, immediately say to speaker with no sound, "This is your opinion, I don't believe in it" to the speaker. The bad effect of the statement will be greatly reduced. 

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Technics to develop Believe in Yourself:

I am mentioning a very simple method to strengthen your self-belief which will surely play an important role. Following these steps will strengthen your believe in yourself.

1. Identify which believe you want to adopt and create a colorful picture or video in your mental screen. See, feel and hear whatever in the image or video. Give some references also to your mind.
2. Imagine all the positive changes in your life, the impact, and the benefits you receive as a result of adopting this belief.
3. Gradually bring it closer to you by making it bigger and more colorful, intensify your feelings.
4. You can also add some of your favourite music, favourite colour in it to intensify your feelings.
5. Again imagine yourself moving into your future with new beliefs and see the positive impact it has on your life.
6. Play the movie in your mental screen twice or thrice.

This method will create a clear picture in your mind and your mind will be able to easily grasp new beliefs. 

Conclusion:

Belief is the main pillar of our mindset, the better the mindset, the better your internal representation, whether any event will have a positive or negative impact on your mind depends entirely on your mindset. If you have believe in yourself, you can easily overcome fear and get the motivation to work.  No person, things or situation can sway you from your goal only if your belief in yourself is strong enough. If you are persistent in your goals, success will come naturally. Success is not a sudden result, success is a method, with patience, self-belief, consistently following this method is the way to success. 

Believe in yourself, you will find light in the dark and find a way to overcome adversity.  "Magic starts to happen when you believe in yourself". by Institute Of Mental Wellness

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5 Steps To Mental Wellness

What is Mental Wellness:

Mental Wellness is the internal resources which can help you to maintain good mental health and mental well-being. It is the state of mind in which the individual realises his or her own potential or abilities, can cope with challenges in life, can work efficiently & effectively, and is able to find the happiness and prosperity in life. It is an active process that helps us to think and act differently and helps us to create ameliorate and success by increasing our self-efficacy.

Why Mental Wellness is very important:

Mental Wellness constitutes our overall mental health and well-being without any clinical approach.  Mental wellness helps to overcome negative situations such as stress, anxiety, bad habits, loneliness, sadness, fear etc. and lead a life in a positive direction of happiness, life satisfaction, strong relationships or personal growth. 

Mental Wellness offers a holistic approach that focuses on enabling people to function positively, such as overcoming illness, maintaining excellent mental health, and pursuing optimal emotional well-being.

Mental Wellness is generally developed as an individual to pursue higher levels of happiness and well-being by meeting the challenges of daily life. 

The universal desires of man i.e. peace, love, money, joy, happiness and purpose can be fully realized only through the method of Mental Wellness.

Mental Wellness vs Mental illness:

Study says that about 15 percent of the world population is mentally ill but that does not mean that the rest are mentally well, or they are living happy and peaceful, healthy, rich, meaningful lives, they are satisfied with their lives. Many people who are not actually mentally ill also do not feel well mentally, or constructive and productive, because sadness, emotional distress, anxiety, loneliness and life's challenges want to consume them, make them dull. Mental wellness is a quality-approach that enhances rather than dullness. 

Again, the presence of a mental illness does not mean that there is no Mental Wellness, for example, people with obsessive-compulsive disorder, brain injury, attention deficit disorder can also show positive mental health, they can also be happy, maintain good relationships, function properly.  can do work properly.

Mental wellness can alleviate and prevent mental illness. As Mental Wellness increases, mental illness will gradually decrease also. Mental Wellness can also significantly reduce the risk of future mental illness and help to maintain better mental health.

How Mental Wellness impacts in our life:

Mental Wellness help us to discover our inner resources like love, happiness, ecstasy, peace, mental fortitude etc. through self-actualization makes us mentally, socially, psychologically, emotionally strong, so that we can successfully overcome external obstacles and lead a meaningful life.

Mental Wellness provides inner strength to overcome extreme adversity, and leading to freedom from suffering, anxiety, anger, irrational fear in life by increasing resilience and persistence. Inspite of hundreds of challenges, it shows the way to reach the pinnacle of success and make life happy and prosperous by guiding oneself in the right direction. Above all, it helps to bring fulfillment in life by awakening the highest potential of people. 

Mental Wellness helps to forget past painful memories, break bad habits, create new strong beliefs and values, and restore balance in life.

Mental Wellness shows the way to get rid of the negative effects of the events that constantly happen in our lives, and frees us from negative thoughts, teaches us how to think positively. Mental Wellness gives motivation to a mentally broken person to survive, teaches how to stay mentally 

healthy, teaches how to be in peace in the midst of chaos.

5 Steps To Mental Wellness:

When you are mentally well that means you are ready for your best level performance, and when you are performed well in any area of your life you will surely get different results also. An experienced, skillful and compassionate Mental Wellness Coach can guide you in the right direction on how to root out life's problems and reach the pinnacle of success and live a healthy, happy, meaningful life. 

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"Empathy" Makes Us More Humane

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• Empathy
• Empathy definition
• Empathy vs Sympathy
• Empathy quotes
• Empathy examples
• Empathy Makes Us More Humane

Empathy:

Although most of the time we use the words empathy and sympathy as synonyms, there is a far difference between the two in terms of humanity or psychology. Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others from the heart, to be responsive and aware of another person or his condition.

Empathy is an emotional feeling that concerns of others without objectively expressing thoughts and experiences. Empathy always shake us from the depths of our hearts. Naturally we can explain empathy as another form of humanity. Empathetic people are usually more humane. Empathy is a humanitarian religion that does not judge person, time and place, but only focuses on solving the problems of others. 

Empathy vs Sympathy:

Empathy is a sincere feeling, whereas sympathy may or may not contain sincerity. Mainly sympathy is a feeling of pride or ego, sympathy can be shown to someone but empathy comes only from the deep feeling of heart. 

Our empathy is the extent to which we can offer sympathy, understanding and support to others.That is, through empathy, as our compassion for others is expressed, so is the desire to do something for them. Sympathy, on the other hand, involves sympathizing with a person or his situation, though much less cooperation and understanding. 

I have already said that the words sympathy and empathy are often mistakenly used interchangeably, although the difference between the two words in terms of emotional impact is quite important. Sympathy is the ability to recognize and share the emotions of another person and is limited to understanding the feelings and giving them great comfort or advice to get out of them, it means "stepping into someone else's shoes."

"Empathy" from a humanitarian perspective recognizes the ability to identify with the suffering of another person and to share their emotions and feelings with the painful plight. Empathy is not limited to comforting or commiserating, it is a deep feeling of compassion that actually comes from the heart. It is the deep expression of our mind. It is a genuine intention to help a person in jeopardy.

The difference between sympathy and empathy can be better understood through an example. For example, suppose two people are traveling on the road and were witness a road accident. They saw a person crying in pain on the road as he was fallen in an accident. One of the two passers-by saw the matter and said what a dangerous accident occurred on the person is suffering, he will survive! If someone informs to his house or to the police, if he can be taken and admitted to the hospital, he can be saved!" etc. etc. In this case, the person is sympathetic, and that is sympathy. 

On the other hand, the second person immediately extended his helping hand without thinking back and forth. He took the accident-victim to the hospital on his own initiative and took care of him, that is empathy.

An empathetic person thinks of standing by the side of others in danger by forgetting everything about self.  "Empathy" is not just a feeling of sympathy for the person in danger but a strong emotional desire to contribute something to help him.

Empathy Makes Us More Humane:

Just as the saying '"empathy makes us more humane" is literally true, its reverse, "humanity makes us more compassionate" is also true. Empathy is a very important human emotion. The words love, mercy, compassion, pity, affection etc. are important in this world today because there are empathetic people. They cannot be saved by mere sympathy unless there is empathy.  

Since compassion makes people more humane, many people are working selflessly to protect animals, plants, and the environment. Feelings of empathy Makes humane that's why someone take risk his own life to rescue a stranger swept away by floodwaters, when there is a fire in the deep forest, people risk their lives to save the lives of animals. 

Take a look at the recent memories of the covid-19 epidemic, how many people had the mentality to do anything special except to express sympathy when a family member or relative was reported to be covid positive in most cases! Again, many such people were found in those times who risked their lives to stand by the patients and their families. This is the bond of empathy and humanity.

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'Laziness' The Enemy Of your Success

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• Laziness
• What is the cause of laziness?
• What defines a lazy person?
• Is laziness a mental disorder?
• Phychological theories of Laziness
• How do I stop being so lazy?

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Laziness:

Laziness is the nature of not being willing to do something or use energy. Laziness is one of the enemies, a great obstacle to achieving great success. It has to be banished from life, otherwise failure will consume you instead of success and everything you have achieved in life will gradually disappear from you. 

What is the cause of laziness ?

Actually laziness is not a physical handicap it is a mental handicap. The sooner you can get out of this obstacle, the life will become prosperous, otherwise life will turn into hell. According to Newton's first law of motion, "a body remains in the state of rest unless and until an external force is applied", same thing is happening also in human behaviour. People who are lazy do not want to do anything themselves unless they are prompted or motivated from outside, procrastinating on everything. In order to get success in any work, it is necessary to take proper action, otherwise sitting at home, not working and only thinking can bring no result but failure. 

Just because you're procrastinating on a particular task doesn't mean you're lazy, laziness is the tendency to procrastinate on each and every task, feel bored just hearing about work, and not wanting to do anything. Laziness may or may not affect anything else, but it will greatly affect on your life. 

Laziness can be synonymous with indolence and sloth, i.e "without pain" or "without taking trouble". And slathness is considered one of our greatest vices, degrading our intellect and judgment. As the saying goes "Idle brain is the devil's workshop". Laziness provokes all kinds of negative thoughts. 

Phycological theories of Laziness:

Our subconscious mind has many excuses and many reasons to keep us away from doing something. Our mind always wants to put us in a comfortable zone, to relax us. If we don't consciously take control of this tendency of our subconscious mind then the strong subconscious mind will make us lazy for instant gratification. 

The first step to overcome laziness is to consciously take control. Just as the rider tames the strong wild horse by whipping, bridling and training first, so the conscious mind has to take control over this wild behavior of our subconscious mind. And to do this the following points should be given importance. 

How do I stop being so lazy?

Unfold your future to you:

Visualize how your laziness will effect on your future life, where this laziness will take you in the next five years, how much you will deteriorate, thus create a picture in your mind of the next ten years and twenty years. Break state when the visualization is completed.  

Now visualize how beautiful your coming days, years will be if you can get out of laziness, what positive changes will come in life in all areas including financial, health, love, success etc. Whenever you do this, the pattern of your subconscious mind will begin to break. 

Laziness is never a problem it's just a psychological symptom, and so try to evaluate yourself whenever laziness comes. Try to find out where it is coming from, is it a lack of motivation, or is there any fear working behind it, who is holding you back? If you can know the real reason, you yourself will be able to deal with it and then your self-efficacy will increase manifold. 

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Start with simple task:

To overcome laziness, first try to keep yourself busy on doing things that you enjoy, things that give you emotional satisfaction, then the tendency to work will gradually increase. Almost everyone wants to avoid tasks that seem complicated or unnecessary to the mind. Whenever you don't want to face something, especially doing boring tasks or facing difficult tasks, it will create laziness in you. To get out of such a situation, before doing any such work, rationalize your mind what you will gain by completing the work, what will be good for you. 

Find a partner or a coach to motivate you:

There won't always be someone to motivate you, but to overcome your laziness in primary stage you need someone who can work hand to hand with you, a person who can encourage you. Having got such a person you can easily overcome your laziness, be it your friend or your mental wellness coach. Not only this, but this kind of emotional bonding can make any work much easier and constructive to you. If there is any fear behind doing nothing, especially the fear of failure, it can be easily overcome with the help of a true partner, with the help of a valuable coach. 

But one thing must be taken care of in this case so that you will not be dependent on others. So, when the laziness tendency starts to disappear from you, start doing some tasks by yourself, then you will see that "snake will die but stick will not break". 

Set goals: 

If you don't know where you want to go, you will end up in an unknown place i.e unwanted life. So set big goals in life but break those goals down into smaller chunks, so that you'll have a crystal-clear picture of your outcome and it won't feel like a burden anymore. Create daily, monthly targets based on your outcomes and write them down and take feedback on regular basis how far you are moving towards your goals. Don't expect anything to work perfectly, because nothing in this universe is perfect. Do whatever you can, as much as you can, good or bad, take action and action will produce results.

Involve yourself in small daily activities: 

Try to do the small tasks of the house, family or yours, such as packing your belongings, ironing clothes, helping in cooking sometimes, buying something from the market, etc. Also, to get rid of laziness, you can take a short walk outside the house in the morning and evening, start to do a little exercise, do various physical activities. 

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