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Monday, August 8, 2022

Resilience: build Skills to overcome hardship

Can you do anything constructive if there always arises conflict in your mind? What is the value of your success if you don't have enthusiasm? That success will never make you happy. You have to face ups and downs at different times in your life circle. If you can't save yourself from the heavy fall, can you ever hope to rise? Only Resilience can make you fit to face all the storms of life and conquer them.

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“When we learn how to become resilient, we learn how to embrace the beautifully broad spectrum of the human experience.”
― Jaeda Dewalt

What is Resilience: 

Resilience is a method that enables you to adapt to the most difficult situations in your life and make the best decisions. Resilience is being emotionally and behaviorally flexible enough to adapt to external and internal demands. It is the ability to withstand any challenging situation or adversity in life. Not only that but also the capacity to recover quickly from any worst situation in life. 

Every one of us faces various big challenges in our life, very important among them are the loss of a loved one, premature death of relatives, financial hardship, divorce, unemployment, accidental dismemberment, global pandemic, etc. Some events like that shake us deeply and only a few people have the mental strength to overcome them. Almost all of us have to face one or more of these unexpected events. 

On closer inspection, we will realize that almost every aspect of these events is beyond our control. All, we can do the control how we react to such an event or any other challenge we face. Resilience is our quality by virtue of which we can take the best decisions in such complex situations and without breaking down mentally, and sometimes this decision can be the game changer in our life, and become the key to success in life. 

Here I am going to say a few pinching words, you may feel uneasy but I am sure you will try to understand its importance. First, we do not self-evaluation, our self-esteem is shaky, our Self-identity is constructed by others and we carry that identity throughout our lives. Even most of our behavior is controlled in terms of external events or by the behavior of others with us and that is why our resilience gradually decreases. Of course, this may not apply to everyone, but it is true for most people. But according to psychology, the higher the resilience, the higher the success. All kinds of unresourceful states are nested in impatient people, such as anger, resentment, stubbornness, and anxiety. Even those who are not resilient are more likely to commit suicide. 

Example of the power of Resilience:

We have some great examples of the power of resilience. You know rubber is a material that has an extremely high modulus of resilience, and that's why the rubber is used as a shock absorber, even in most heavy machineries! Due to the rubber's good resilience, you can't break it with a hammer, but if you hit it too hard, the hammer will come back and hurt you.

To give another example, it will be convenient to understand better. It will be useful to give another example to understand better. During the heavy storm, many big trees fall down to the ground or break. But you will see that the plants that have more flexibility/ resilience can withstand even after heavy storms. Likewise, the more resilient we are, the better able we are to weather the storms in our lives and get back on track. 

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How to build resilience: 

You must be thinking to yourself that I understand that resilience is very important, it is an absolute quality, but how can I possess this absolute quality? Keeping yourself resilient in times of danger or in the most difficult situations of life is a word of mouth! No, not at all, you can never build your house earthquake is going on. You have to either build it before or after the earthquake and build it in such a way that it can not be easily damaged by the earthquake. Resilience is our inner strength. We can build It or grow it Up within us by practicing again and again by maintaining the following process.

“Resilience is very different than being numb. Resilience means you experience, you feel, you fail, you hurt. You fall. But, you keep going.”
― Yasmin Mogahed

Be a good observer: 

Resilience is more likely to develop when you become a good observer and having good observation skills. A good observer can respond best to the context of a given situation. Intolerant people make stubborn decisions. Stubborn decisions can cause more damage in life. Our reaction totally depends on how we perceive the event. Usually, there is a big difference between what we perceive by seeing, listening, or feeling something instantly and reality. So the more you observe, the clearer the real picture will be and the better your behavior or decision can be. It also depends on your belief, values, past experiences, meta-program, physiological state, and mental state. On the basis of all these, the mind deletes, distorts, and generalizes any event that gets registered in our brain. So if you change them gradually by changing your thoughts, resilience will develop.

Build your connection: 

Build connections with the people who care you, they may be your relatives, beloved ones, friends, or other else. Build good relationships with really wise people, these people will give you emotional support in difficult times. Find the companion of happiness and sadness. Avoid people who do not have positive thoughts. 
At the same time, make yourself acceptable to others. Reach out to people without any expectation, and you will see many people will accompany you selflessly. Love others, and care about them, they will care about you and love you back. Emotional support is needed above all in times of grave danger, this support is only available when you become receptive or when you get sound advice from others. 

Give purpose to yourself: 

Our mind is the busiest thing in the world, it wants to work every now and then, if you can't keep it occupied with the right task or thought, it will make you busy with irrelevant thoughts. So do something that gives you a sense of accomplishment and purpose every day. Set small, meaningful goals that will fully support you in accomplishing your mission, and think about how to achieve them. 

Maintain your wellness:

If you are well, you will never suffer from an inferiority complex; if you do not suffer from an inferiority complex, your resilience will increase, not diminish. Well-being means keeping yourself physically and mentally healthy as well as taking care of your beauty. Just like exercising, playing sports, or going for a morning walk to keep your body healthy, you need to take proper measures to keep your mind healthy, because mental illness will also affect on your body and reduce your resilience. 
Physical and mental fitness gives any person a lot of self-confidence and increases self-efficacy. You can meditate, read life stories of various extremely successful people or come in contact with life coaches or spiritual masters for mental development and keep the mind healthy.

Be aware of your thoughts: 

Resilient people are never stuck in negative thoughts rather they practice how to focus on positive thinking. They try to find the positive side of any event and look for the lessons they can learn from it. They even learn from their past painful memories, because they know that only through careful observation of mistakes can lead to finding the right path.
“Successful people demonstrate their resilience through their dedication to making progress every day, even if that progress is marginal.”
― Jonathan Mills

Key Notes:

Life doesn't always go according to your plan, life goes through ups and downs. Getting out of every unpleasant situation required self-control, and commitment to take the toughest challenges and bounce back. Resilience is an outstanding quality that can equip you with all these powerful tools to deal with all kinds of situations. 


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