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What kind of mind-set do we need to have our extreme success in life

TABLE OF CONTENT

• Mindset: the psychology of success.
• What is the mindset?
• Growth vs Fixed mindset.
• What kind of mind-set do we need to have our extreme success in life.
• How to develop Growth mindset.

In our daily activities, we are achieving success in some work every day. Sometimes we need to set our minds on achieving this success, but sometimes it comes automatically on the way.

In order to achieve ultimate success in life, we must have the ultimate mindset. If you have already reached to the first stage of success in life, that is, you set goals, the second and most important step is to make the final mental preparation.

                                                                           

Many students or job seekers and many businessmen work restlessly, and try to push themselves in their own field but fail in the final stage. The main reason for this is that all these individuals are not prepared themselves mentally.

We see people with two types of mentality, the type of mentality that most people in this world identify with is a fixed mindset. People with this type of mindset usually leave everything to their own devices, believe that whatever is to happen must be happened, and also believe that 'no matter what we do, the situation will never change'. All these people are guided by the situation and they are not able to handle any challenging situations. All these people pay more attention to criticism and pay attention to the words of others having no own opinions. They usually go one step forward and two steps back in any work. Most of the time negative thoughts pop up in their mind.

There are very few people who have a Growth Mindset. These kinds of people know very well that they can create changes. They are always focused on their goals. They are constantly trying to improve themselves. Everything has potential for them.  Even if they temporarily fail at something, they learn from it. All these individuals are extremely self-confident. They do not worry if immediate results are not forthcoming. They know that today or tomorrow the goal will be achieved. They are very much passionate about their goals. All of these people know that if a person in the world is successful to do anything, then I can learn to do so.

In order to achieve great success, you have to shift from the fixed mindset stage to the growth mindset stage. In order to bring about this invaluable change in yourself, you need to change some of your beliefs and take a few small steps. 

Adopt this belief:-

• If anyone can do, you can also learn or be able to do so.
• There are so many opportunities are there in this universe.
• You are there to serve a great purpose.
• Failure is not for you, every single one is an important lesson.

                                                                         

Now come to the point about what steps to take:-

• Start with the 3 'P's:- That is purpose, passion, and perseverance. Find Out your purpose, what purpose you want to serve for yourself, for your family, relatives, friends, and as well as for this universe. Then move with your passion. You may have multiple passions, take one by one and find out which one is matching with your purpose, and see all the possibilities and their results. After that go for the last 'P' which is perseverance. Hard perseverance will make your path easier. This is such a quality that allows you to continue trying to do something though it is difficult. Make it your habit.

• Enjoy the journey:- Enjoy every step you take to reach your goals. If you need to learn something new, learn it, accept all the challenges, and face them face to face. Being steadfast in the goal, bring flexibility within yourself along the way. Without thinking about how long after success will come, be fully engaged in the process of the journey and take action.

• Do not succumb to any temptation:- Different types of advice will come on the way of your journey and even alluring offers may come. Staying steadfast in one's goal at such a moment is a big challenge and test for oneself. To get rid of temporary pain, to get comfort, if you fall into the trap of greed, your goal will remain elusive.

• Turn insults into your strength without breaking:- No one else knows your purpose, they have little idea about your goals, no one understands your intentions, and they only have a vision of your results. Most people again believe in immediate results, if they do not see the results naturally, they will make awkward comments, and insult you.  Strengthen yourself mentally, and motivate yourself without being disturbed by this.

                                                                           

• Don't lose in the fog of confusion:- There are a number of people, especially those with fixed mindsets, who get lost in the fog of confusion. After walking one way for a while, they take another way. After trying one thing for a while, they get busy with another thing. Sometimes they walk backward. Their problem is very simple, they do not know what their main outcome is and it is not clear what they want. The way to get rid of it is to talk privately with your mind at the beginning of goal setting 'what exactly does it want?' Be specific about your outcome, how you feel about, see about, and the sound likes. Visualize Outcome before Goal Setting, feel that it is in front of you right now.

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Say bye bye to your bad habits and adopt life changing good habits

Table of content:

• What is habit.
• How do habits develop.
• Why can't we give up bad habits.
• How to quit bad habits.
• How to adopt good habits.

Habit is the pattern of our behavior that becomes ingrained in our subconscious mind through the repeated practicing or doing something. 

In other words, habits are such behaviours that do not require our consciousness. For example, when you first learn to drive, you have a complete focus on when to operate the brake pedal, clutch pedal, accelerator pedal. After practicing for a while, you will become Habitual, then you will be pressed on the right paddle automatically at the right time. There is no need to conscious awareness to drive smoothly. 

like driving, we get conditioned by our habits. These habits can work to our utmost detriment or our absolute benifit. 

                                                                             

We become accustomed to anything only when we repeat it over and over again. More than 40 percent of the behaviours we do every day are habitual.  Some of these habits are good and some may be bad. Just as bad habits can turn our lives from heaven to hell, life can be turn into death, in the same way our every day's small good habits bring unprecedented changes in our lives, bring success.

The biggest challenge for us is to get rid of bad habits and build good ones at the same time.

Our minds work mainly on two levels, conscious level and subconscious level. At our subconscious level our habitual pattern is formed which is called Neural pathways in NLP. Whenever we want to develop a new habit such as waking up early in the morning, exercising, working on time, reading books, at that moment our Conscious Mind tries to find out if any such pattern of file is already existing in our Subconscious Mind. As soon as it checked and find the file have no existence then and there we get obstruction, demotivation. For this reason, we failed to build new habits even taking steps.

The best way to get rid of it is to start with the smallest step to the new habit you want to develop.  Suppose you want to exercise for an hour in the morning make up your mind that it's okay, I'll get up tomorrow morning and go out and walk atleast 10-15 steps. It will not be a burden on your subconscious mind, it will take it spontaneously. If you exercise hard or walk a long distance at the beginning of first day your mind will get exhausted, and it will obsract  you for the next day.

                                                                         

There is also another important reason why we cannot give up bad habits. A smoker knows how harmful smoking is to his health, but it is not enough to get rid of this bad habit. Whenever we think of trying to get rid of a bad habit and start to do it, we may be able to stay away from it for the first couple of days or weeks, but then we go back to that old habit again. 

In order to get rid of such bad habits, one has to be aware of his or her own mind in three ways. The first is the detrimental side of it, the second is the improvement in his or her life if  gives up this bad habit, and the third is 'fill in the blanks', what most people have no idea about. If we give up the bad habit, we will have to add some kind of new, healthy and good habit to the empty space that will be created, so that we can become our best self.

Just as no place on the earth can be vacated so our mind. If we cannot consciously fill that void with a good habit, our mind will automatically fill it with one of the relevant habits lying in the unconscious mind. So very consciously, carefully think about what type of new habits you want to adopt by replacing your old habits.

Another best method is to break the trigger point which forces you to go back to the old bad habit. You may use very powerful techniques that is 'Swish pattern'. Close your eyes, find out the behaviour you want to change, see the pictures. Now find out the starting point of the behaviour that trigger you to the bad habit. Put this picture in side.

                                                                           

Now think of the new habit you want to adopt. Check all the internal and external ecology, how your life is changing, improving in all areas, what others people are reacting to you for your new habit. Check if any kind of obstraction are there in your mind or not. Make all pictures bright and colourful. Then see that the new picture you created overlapping on the old picture (habit) and the old picture gradually disappearing. Repeat this process for five more times. This kind of VISUALIZATION help you a lot to replace the bad habit with new good habit.

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Wake up and become your Best Self

TABLE OF CONTENT

• Best Self: top productivity tools you need to succeed.
• The first and Nobel goal. 
• The first step to success.
• Best Self meaning.
• Wake up and become your Best Self.

The first and nobel goal of each of us should be to become our best self. The first step to success is to improve yourself and bring out the best in yourself. Otherwise, even if we succeed, it will not take long for us to get back to  miserable life.

The best version of yourself is to awake the restrained power of your mind, to build your confidence, to be focused, to control your mind completely, to get out of bad habits. Gain ability to withstand against any external forces, ability to face any challenges in life.

I believe in the word "we have all the resources we need". Yes, of course, each of us has that quality, that ability.  We don't just nurture them, we don't try to enhance them. Each of us has in store infinite love, a sense of self-esteem, the ability to win the battle of our own lives. We have all the resources to reach the pinnacle of success.

                                                                           

You can never expect different results without reforming and improving yourself. It is quite impossible to achieve double income with same effort and ability.  To improve your relationship is impossible unless you change yourself.  Your health will never improve if you do not change your old routine, do not have time for exercise.

Each of us has the different way of life.  One's dreams, emotions, skills, ideals, self-esteem, thoughts can never be matched with of other's. So the first step in becoming the best version of oneself is 'finding out who you are and what you want'. I will discuss the rest of the steps later.

Finding out who you are and what you want:- What are your values? What are you most interested in? What do you love to do? What are the things in life that can give you the most joy? Find out the answer of all these questions.

Imagine your otherself is sitting in front of you. Ask him out well all these questions from your otherself. Want to know, what you are interested in doing?  Whose presence gives you the most joy?  What impact do you want to have in this world?  Why can't you do what your soul wants?  What are the obstacles?  Are you afraid of anything? Feel all the answers and accept them honestly.

Free yourself from all the limitations of belief: You are stuck in your own limited believes. You must break your misbelief about your abilities and how much success you can achieve. Limiting beliefs and negative thoughts limits you and the main obstacle to your being the best self.

'I'm pretty good at what I'm doing', get out of this comfort zone.  Faith empowers people, gives them the spirit to work.

                                                                           

Change your bad habits:- One of the most complicated tasks is to give up your bad habits. Because some bad habits become our unconscious pattern, seem to be normal. For example, waking up late. Suppose you wake up every morning at 7 or 8 o'clock or go to bed at 11 o'clock at night. Many will say that 'I can do good work or study at night', it is impossible.  Everything that happens throughout the day tends to haunt our brains, making it very difficult to focus on any given task at the end of the day or at night. We can be very productive in the morning when both the environment and the mind are calm.

                                                                           

Self decipline:- One thing we often hear is 'hard work is the only way to succeed', somany people work hard, are they all successful?  Not at all. Work with discipline and self-control is the strong pillar of success.  Discipline and self-control will make your work much easier and simple.

To maintain self-discipline, you need first to create a healthy routine for every day, and atleast Six Days in a week must be maintain that routine. Never unfollow the specific routine on any excuse. In the routine you must include exercise, study time to gain knowledge and must have time for your entertainment.

Control the fear:- Fear is the most poisonous and disguised enemy. Fear is the biggest obstacle in the way of becoming your best version try to overcome it. In most cases, we have unreasonable fears. We are afraid to take action in the future by enhancing the event of what has happened in the past.

There are so many aspects in our lives where we can improve ourselves a lot, be it of our health, our minds, our wisdom, our communication, our patience, whatever it may be. We are constantly experiencing, our lives are constantly changing.  Then why don't we take that experience, that change in the right direction?

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